This article looks into what every parent worries about for their child ? the future. I know it's a scary thing to think about but all parents have to think about it at some point. Your child's success as an adult will depend on their ability to read their own behavior and adjust accordingly. By this I am talking about the need for the child with Asperger's to "learn" how to react and adapt in different situations. Most people are fortunate enough to have a pretty good idea what the expected social graces or responses are in different situations. Think about how many times this happens in a day ? maybe hundreds of times.
Having breakfast with the family, chatting with work colleagues, going to the store, driving to work, going to a social group, attending church, catching public transport ? to name but a few. But for a person with Asperger's understanding the correct response isn't something that comes naturally - it needs to be "learned". For this very reason, it is critical that you are honest with your child. Provide them with the feedback they need, in behavior specific methods, so that they may be able to generalize from one situation to another. So for example role play or go through how your child may react to someone in the store who is trying to serve them. They are not likely to understand emotions naturally, in any given situation.
But there are some useful software programs out there that can be used to help your child get a better understanding of facial and emotional recognition. One type of software is called "Gaining Face" and you can have a free trial of the software at http://www.ccoder.com/GainingFace/ When giving your child feedback ensure that it is specific to things that they can change and things that they have control over.
So for example if they said something that many people may take offence at or adopted a particularly aggressive form of body language. Those things are likely to be identified in their response to certain situations. But the great news is that so many Asperger's kids grow and develop and have great lives with all of the "usual" trappings of life such as employment, relationships etc. You only need to look as far as Silicon Valley in the USA to see a great number of people with Asperger's and related conditions having profitable careers at the cutting edge of the software industry. It is rumoured by many that Microsoft's billionaire owner Bill Gates has a form of Asperger's ? so the sky can be the only limit.
And obviously this is just the material view and many Asperger's children are able to grow into pillars of the community with happy and fulfilled family lives too. But obviously what you do from now on will help your child enormously with that future progression. This article can be summarized by saying that it is essential for parents to help their child understand the behavioral cues and expectations of society as openly and plainly as possible. Your child with Asperger's is very capable of learning a whole range of social skills if taught in the right way.
Dave Angel is a social worker with families who have children on the Autistic Spectrum and is the author of a new e-book that answers the 46 most asked questions by parents of children with Asperger's. To claim your free 7 day Mini-Course for parents of children with Asperger's Syndrome visit http://www.parentingaspergers.com today.